Redefining Valentine’s Day


Wow, here we are already! Happy V Day everyone! Break out the chocolates and the conversation hearts! {Just kidding…but really, you could give me chocolate…} Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that you either love or hate. Sure, I know people who dislike Christmas because they get annoyed by the music, or Thanksgiving because of all the family craziness. But of all the holidays, V Day seems to be the most polarizing.

Let me just give a little disclaimer up-front: I’m a total sap. I love all things mushy, and even the most cliché of romantic gestures will put a smile on my face. Think The Notebook paired with cuddling, wine, and chocolates {and tissues…lots and lots of tissues}. Yeah, I’m that girl.


With that being said, while I personally love Valentine’s Day, more and more I think it’s a little exclusive. If you don’t have a husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend, you’re kind of out of luck. I used to be all about the traditional array of Valentine’s Day festivities – fancy dinner, flowers, jewelry, the whole nine yards. But as hubs and I progress in our relationship, my definition of Valentine’s Day has changed.

Fun throwback story: hubs and I spent our first V Day in a movie theater eating tacos from the Taco Bell drive through that we’d snuck into the theater. My purse smelled like tacos for weeks after that. And you know what? To this day, that Valentine’s Day stands out the most in my mind, not because it was our first one, but because it was one of the most fun Valentine’s Days I’ve had with him. Out of all the fancy dinners and nice gifts throughout the years, smuggled tacos and a rom com have topped my list of favorite Valentine’s Days. Go figure.


I think part of the reason I enjoyed that Valentine’s Day so much was because there was no pressure. Valentine’s Day isn’t so much a holiday now as it is an ordeal. Who can come up with the most elaborate date night? Who drops the most money on fabulous diamond jewelry? Social media outlets like Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest have only made it worse. “Well so-and-so’s boyfriend got her diamond earrings AND a pony.”

Can we just stop for a minute and think about what V Day is really about? It’s about celebrating the one{s} you love. It’s a time to slow down and let your significant other know how special they are and how much you appreciate them. They do so much for us all throughout the year, so why not show small tokens of love and appreciation rather than drop ungodly amounts of money on things they probably don’t need?

And to take that one step further, why not make Valentine’s Day a celebration of all the people you love, rather than just significant others? Then it could be a holiday everyone could enjoy. Whether it be a sibling, a parent, a child, a friend, a pet or all of the above, everyone has people {or animals} in their lives who they love. So this year, let’s make V Day about sharing the love and appreciation with all the important people in our lives. To me, that would make it a much more inclusive and meaningful holiday.


So, having put all of that out there, you may be wondering what the hubs and I are doing today to celebrate. We’ll be spending the rest of our morning at the World of Wheels auto show {my small gift to him, because cars are his favorite}. After that we may go to Nebraska Furniture Mart to shop for appliances, and we’ll end our evening spending quality time with good friends at their house. Nothing fancy, no bells & whistles. Just quality time with my love and people who matter to us. Enjoy your Valentine’s Day everyone!